My Ex Uses My Child as a Messenger – How to Set Boundaries Without Hurting Your Kid

Your child isn’t a courier. But when your ex constantly sends messages through them, you’re put in a painful position: protect your kid’s emotional well-being while dealing with a manipulative co-parent. This guide gives you practical scripts, emotional tools, and legal boundary-setting strategies that protect your peace without putting your child in the middle.

What you’ll learn:

How to respond to message-passing calmly and legally

Tools for setting boundaries without causing guilt or fear

Scripts for explaining healthy communication to your child

What to do if your ex escalates or retaliates

When and how to involve the court if needed

Protect your kid. Protect your sanity. Set the boundary without being the “bad guy.”

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